It does not matter…

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. ~Confucius

This is my affirmation for myself on this Wisdom Wednesday.  When I am feeling like I am not progressing quickly enough, I will remember the tortoise won the race.

Out of My Comfort Zone

Those of you who read my blog on a regular basis will notice the drastic change in my theme.  As part of the current blog challenge in which I am participating, I was encouraged to change my blog’s look.

My favorite color (or non-color, I should say) is black.  Most of my wardrobe is black (including my motorcycle gear).  Whenever I am given a choice of colors in anything, I choose black.  It is introspective, sleek, and classic.  So for me to go from a mostly black blog to this bright, somewhat color-spattered theme is somewhat unsettling.

However, in the spirit of personal growth, I am going to leave this new theme in place for a few days to see if I can get used to it.  If not, I can always go back to what is safe.  Just out of curiosity, let me know what you think of the new look.

Forgiveness means…

Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past.
~Lily Tomlin

When I have used this quote, people often have to think a moment before they get their head around the concept.  For me, it has been a lifesaver.  Once I can accept what has already taken place, and know that it cannot be changed, it is much easier to let go of it.  And forgiveness is all about letting go.  Happy Wisdom Wednesday!

 

Simply Keeping My Commitment

I guess I am catching up from an emotional weekend, as I scraped myself out of bed at 10:00 this morning.  I managed to get caught up on some email and sort of cook dinner (tuna salad sandwiches and soup).  I helped my son with homework and here I am, at the end of the day, keeping my blogging commitment.  I still haven’t completely unpacked my suitcase, but I hope to get it done before bed.  Oh, and I need to take a shower… if I want to sleep in bed tonight.

Incidentally, I am taking part in a blogging challenge (which began today) to continue growing and improving my blog.  I said I was not going to share my goals publicly, but I am going to be getting those goals written down for myself tonight.  So you will hopefully notice some improvements in the next couple of weeks.  For tonight, I am simply keeping my commitment to write.

 

 

 

 

Bent Time

I have been reading a book that explores, among other things, the concept of time.  Incidentally, I am also preparing to embark on a journey that I know will distort time.  My mother and I will be traveling to Colorado to attend her father’s memorial service.

Something I have noticed is that death seems to slow time for those who suffer loss.  Maybe it’s because we become more aware in the days following the death of a loved one, and maybe it’s because we simply slow down.  Either way, I have noticed that the time immediately following a loss or tragedy seems to become a precious capsule to be cherished.

I remember the time surrounding a life threatening surgery my Dad underwent several years ago.  The trip to Florida, the night preceding the surgery, and the moments just before he was wheeled into surgery (in particular) are etched into my brain.  The weeks, days, and months just before my father’s death are even more clear in my mind. And I suspect this weekend will become burned into my memory just as clearly.

I was not close to my grandfather, but my relationship with my mother will make this weekend one of those time-bent weekends.  We will be spending hours in airports and on an airplane together.  Then we will spend a weekend focused on the life and death of the primary man in my mother’s life.  Time will slow and, at times, stand still.

I know these moments frozen in time will become a pat of our life stories.  So I am ready.  I am ready to take in the stories, feel the agony of loss and the joy of reminiscence, and enjoy the time with my mother.  And I am grateful that time bends to make these times stand out in our memories.

I must create…

I must create a system or be enslaved by another mans; I will not reason and compare: my business is to create.
~William Blake

On this Wisdom Wednesday, I was thinking about how we determine our path if we are awake.  If not, we are simply being tossed about by the desires of others.

Radical Change

Sometimes we need a little change. My mom always used to say when she wanted to change her luck she would change her purse.

This was me a few nights ago.

This was me a few nights ago.

 

Sometimes we need radical change. I know when I want the energy in my life to shift I have to do something more.

This is me in my daughter's kitchen this afternoon.  My hair has grown down to my waist.

This is me in my daughter’s kitchen this afternoon. My hair has grown down to my waist.

Yesterday I got a “wild hair,” so to speak, and decided to do something radical.  So I made an appointment with my daughter for a haircut.

This is the braid I frequently wear.

This is the braid I frequently wear.

It was not my original intent, but I will now research how to donate my braid.

This is the braid I frequently wore... now detached.

This is the braid I frequently wore… now detached.

Here  is the finished product.   My daughter is a talented cosmetologist.    And I do feel my energy has shifted.  Mission accomplished!

Me tonight after a radical change.  Feels great!

Me tonight after a radical change. Feels great!

I’d rather regret…

I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.
~Lucille Ball

I have learned not to regret even the stupid things I’ve done because I have learned from them.  And I plan to do the things I would regret “not doing” someday, as often as I possibly can.  This might range from learning something new to making amends with someone I’ve wronged.  Have a Wonderful Wisdom Wednesday!      

Ancora Imparo

Leonardo DaVinci and Michelangelo (even at the age of 87) were said to have used the phrase “ancora imparo” often.  The Italian phrase means “I am still learning.”  When I think of such remarkable men, I consider myself in good company, as I too am still learning.  

At the age of 34, I earned a bachelor’s degree.  At 43, I sang at an open mic night for the first time (at the Bluebird Cafe).  At 45, I learned how to ride a motorcycle, I became a certified Zumba instructor, and I began blogging.  At 48, I ran my first 5K.  I’ve learned lots of things before and since, but I am happy to say that the older I get, the more eager I am to learn new things.

I think when we quit learning, we begin stagnating and dying.  And I find myself wondering, “What will I be learning when I am 87?” 

If you’re going…

If you’re going through hell, keep going. ~Winston Churchill

I chose this quote earlier this week. Ironically, nobody needs it more than me on this Wisdom Wednesday. Traumatic stress can be a real rollercoaster. Today I will ride it out, knowing tomorrow will be better. I just have to keep moving forward.