As Father’s Day comes to a close, I am thinking about all the fathers in my life.
My son, who is celebrating his second Father’s Day, has a baby girl who simply adores him. I am proud of the dad he is, especially because he didn’t really have a role model.
When I was a teenager, my step-father sewed a skirt I ripped as I cried out of frustration. He took me to the emergency room when I fell down a flight of stairs and split my noggin open. And he made some killer cubed steak and gravy too! He doesn’t sew or cook much anymore.
My brother-in-law is celebrating his first Father’s Day. He had never held an infant until his own son was born. By my sister’s own admission, he is a better mother than she could ever be.
My father-in-law is a wonderful man and has treated me like a daughter nearly since the day we met. He looks out for me, sends me things he knows I would like, and takes a general interest in what’s going on with me. (I think he likes me better than my husband.)
All kidding aside, my husband learned a lot from his dad. I always say the line that hooked me was when my husband’s online profile listed one of his favorite things as “telling jokes that make me laugh and my kids roll their eyes.” I always heard that the best gift a man can give his kids is to love their mother. Well, we don’t have any children together, but my husband has certainly given his step-children the gift of loving their mother. And I know it has been good for them.
Finally, I have been thinking about my dad all day. He could make any situation seem better with just a few words. I can remember calling him late at night, because I knew he would be up… and if he wasn’t he would talk to me anyway. He always knew just what to say. One of the things he used to say to me, popped into my head first thing this morning. It was usually after I had done something stupid and he wanted to let me know he was in my corner no matter what. He would say, “You’re my daughter. When you’re right, you’re right and when you’re wrong, you’re right.” Now I was smart enough to know I wasn’t always right… especially in those moments. But it sure made me feel better.