When I am striving to create change in my life, self-doubt often shows up to express its opinion. Lately I have been using a process to keep the doubt in check. It is simple and is helping me form new beliefs about myself.
4 Steps for Squelching Self-Doubt:
For example, if I were shy (and, I’m not) and I wanted to become outgoing, this is the process I would use to counteract the disempowering thoughts that might keep me from creating lasting change.
First, I acknowledge the commentary as a statement of past fact. The operative word here is “past.” So I might say to myself, “I used to be shy…” If I don’t acknowledge what once was, it feels as if I am denying the truth. This makes it more difficult to believe any new truth I am trying to create.
Secondly, I replace the old fact with the new “truth.” This is what I really want to create. I say it in the present tense, as if it is already so. “I used to be shy, but now I enjoy getting out and meeting new people.”
Next, I look for evidence in my life to support this new idea. It can be something seemingly insignificant, but must support my new goal. Maybe I recall a time when I introduced myself to a new neighbor, or a time when I spoke up in a group.
Lastly, I take some small action to reinforce the new truth. In this example, I might strike up a conversation with a stranger in the grocery store. The more I do this last step, the more evidence I will be able to call upon, and the more this becomes my new reality.
At first, the self-doubt cranks up the volume because it sees I am threatening the old comfortable pattern. But after a while, the new pattern becomes more true for me and the voice of doubt becomes quieter. Sometimes it even goes away. Once in a while, it creeps up out of nowhere just to see if I am paying attention. I then go through this process to remind myself of my new truth. The next time you have a disempowering thought, try this little process. It will help you squelch self-doubt.