A few days ago, I posted a link to a podcast entitled The Secret to Dealing with Difficult People. It seems as though a message usually comes to me in multiple ways within a discrete window of time. This week is a prime example. The title of the message at my church today was “Is Someone Driving You Crazy?”
Don Miguel Ruiz’s second of The Four Agreements is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” This applies well when dealing with people that drive you crazy. Remember that even if someone attacks you personally, don’t take it personally. It is something in yourself that brings up your reaction to others. This can be a hard pill to swallow. Whether it is true or not, if you come from this place you have some control over the situation.
When someone else is getting “under my skin,” I remind myself that my reaction is about something within me. It might be something I don’t like about myself. Maybe it is a reminder of something that I tolerated in my past, and am not willing to tolerate now. Regardless, it is my non-acceptance of what is that is causing my discomfort. I also remind myself that when I feel someone is being a “Pain in the Posterior,” I can choose to look at them as a “Partner in Progress.” That is, they are helping me to learn patience, acceptance, and reminding me of how I do not want to be.