Around the House

As I was scrolling through the camera roll on my phone, I found these pictures of flowers I’ve had around the house over the past few months. They aren’t my best shots, but they were the only ones I hadn’t posted, so I decided to just create a gallery with them.

White Rose

White Rose

 

This is another one of my table gracing flowers. Flowers are my indulgence, whether they are daisies, roses, or orchids.  Whether it is a single stem or a bounteous bouquet, I love them all.  And now that I have become a phoneography fanatic, I can keep all of my flowers for as long as I wish.  They don’t smell quite as good, but they are still beautiful!

Gerbera Daisies

Gerbera DaisiesFlowers are one of my favorite photography subjects.  Gerbera Daisies, symbolic of cheer, are one of my favorites.  These pink beauties are gracing my dining room table this week.  It is nearly impossible to look at them and not feel cheerful.

Simple Things

Simple Things

I happened to pass these flowers today, and went back to capture them. I have always loved flowers and I now realize that they are everywhere… even in places I would not expect them. These were just outside the restaurant where I had dinner with my children tonight. I am grateful that I have learned to notice things around me that may seem inconsequential in the moment. These simple things make my life so much richer.

The Best Way to Find Mr. Right

Notice I did not say the fastest way to find Mr. Right, but the best way.  Now, I have been divorced twice, so you may not want to take advice from me.  I will say that I have learned a lot from the mistakes I’ve made.  And I learned something very valuable after two failed marriages.

When I tell people I am on my third marriage, he tells me, “No, this is your last marriage.”  I have definitely become successful at marriage, and I want to share my secret for finding Mr. Right.  (What you do once you find him is on you.)

I was a single mother with four children and, although I was not bitter about marriage, I simply was not interested anymore.  I idealized marriage and was not able to make it work.  I had been thinking about the fact that men didn’t treat me well.  I was attractive, intelligent, kind, and industrious, yet I kept attracting men who used me for a door mat… and frequently a meal ticket.

It occurred to me that I was going to stop waiting for a man to do nice things for me, and I would just do them for myself.  In particular, I really wished that a man would bring me flowers, but they never did.  So one day when I was doing my grocery shopping, I purchased a bouquet of flowers.  I took them home, cut them, and put them in a vase that I dug out from the cabinet under my kitchen sink.  I put them on the kitchen table and stood there looking at them for a long time.  Although I don’t even remember what kind of flowers they were, I remember the feeling I got seeing them on my table and smelling their perfume on the air.

This was the first step.  I began doing nice things for myself on a regular basis.  I went to nice restaurants.  I bought myself a silver bangle for my birthday.  It had a heart cut out on the inside of the bracelet (where no one else can see it), that reminds me to love myself.  All these little things added up to a huge change in the way I carried myself and in what I would now expect from a potential partner.

I began dating after I felt whole, and one of the first serious relationships I got into showed me how far I had come.  He had me flown to where he lived and he was waiting in the airport with a dozen roses!  Although I chose not to continue that relationship, I was being given affirmation that I deserved this kind of treatment.  Incidentally, the fact that I could end a relationship with someone who was good to me, not because I didn’t feel worthy, but because I now knew exactly what I wanted in a relationship was amazing in itself.

Then I met my current last husband.  If I had met him only a few years before, I would never have considered dating him because I would have felt he was out of my league.  I am grateful I found him after I found my own self worth.  He opens doors for me, brings me gifts (often when I least expect it), teaches me new things, and gives me permission (not that I need it anymore) to take care of myself.  He believes in me, builds me up, and is strong for me when I can’t be strong for myself.

So if you are looking for Mr. Right (or Ms. Right), the best way to find him (or her) is to stop looking, and treat yourself the way you want to be treated.  Then he will come looking for you.

Can’t Get It Out of My Head

LilyI passed this fence and this lily every day this week. And every time I passed, I thought, “That would be a good shot.” Today, I did not have need to pass by there, but I couldn’t get the picture out of my head. So I drove to this spot, pulled into the closest driveway, got out of my car, and snapped a few photos (I also caught a bee on a thistle while I was there… but I’ll us that for another post). Now I will be able to sleep tonight.