Start where you are…

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

~Arthur Ashe

On this Wisdom Wednesday, I am reminded that I used to want conditions to be perfect before embarking on a new endeavor.  I have learned that if I wait until I am an expert, until I have everything I need, and until I am able to do everything necessary to achieve a goal, I will never begin.       

The Secret to Dealing with Difficult People

The link below is to a podcast that was generated from a question I posed in relation to a previous podcast produced by the Institute for Self Actualization (isa).  It contains some useful tips for dealing with people that “get under your skin.”  It is the sixth in a series entitled isa Experience Podcast: Wake Up and Take Charge of Your Life with Devin and Luis.  Other episodes are available at this location as well.

Podcast Episode 06 The Secret to Dealing with Difficult People – isa Experience

 

 This was taken with my iPhone 5S, using the Noir filter.  It is actually the work space in my bedroom.  Black & White is my favorite week of the challenge, and I particularly like the stark contrast between the ultrabook and the headphones.  I like the light reflected from the water bottle  and the edges of the keys as well.  Phoneography and Non-SLR Digital Devices Photo Challenge, Week 3: Black & White.  

Workspace (Phoneography and Non-SLR Digital Devices Photo Challenge)

I took this photo of an alcove at a local greenway.  It reminded me that the weekend is a recess from the daily grind, as this alcove is a recess along the waterway.   Have a great recess!

I took this photo of an alcove at a local greenway. It reminded me that the weekend is a recess from the daily grind, as this alcove is a recess along the waterway. Have a great recess!

Alcove

That’s What Friends Are For

I had a sweet talk with a friend today. She is 20 years my senior, yet we have so much in common. I noted that I was grateful for the mirror she is for me. I can often see myself more clearly through others. Among other things, that’s what friends are for.

4 Steps for Squelching Self-Doubt

When I am striving to create change in my life, self-doubt often shows up to express its opinion.  Lately I have been using a process to keep the doubt in check.  It is simple and is helping me form new beliefs about myself.  

4 Steps for Squelching Self-Doubt:  

For example, if I were shy (and, I’m not) and I wanted to become outgoing, this is the process I would use to counteract the disempowering thoughts that might keep me from creating lasting change.

First, I acknowledge the commentary as a statement of past fact.  The operative word here is “past.”  So I might say to myself, “I used to be shy…”  If I don’t acknowledge what once was, it feels as if I am denying the truth.  This makes it more difficult to believe any new truth I am trying to create.

Secondly, I replace the old fact with the new “truth.”  This is what I really want to create.  I say it in the present tense, as if it is already so.  “I used to be shy, but now I enjoy getting out and meeting new people.” 

Next, I look for evidence in my life to support this new idea.  It can be something seemingly insignificant, but must support my new goal.  Maybe I recall a time when I introduced myself to a new neighbor, or a time when I spoke up in a group.

Lastly, I take some small action to reinforce the new truth.  In this example, I might strike up a conversation with a stranger in the grocery store.  The more I do this last step, the more evidence I will be able to call upon, and the more this becomes my new reality.  

At first, the self-doubt cranks up the volume because it sees I am threatening the old comfortable pattern.  But after a while, the new pattern becomes more true for me and the voice of doubt becomes quieter.  Sometimes it even goes away.  Once in a while, it creeps up out of nowhere just to see if I am paying attention.  I then go through this process to remind myself of my new truth.  The next time you have a disempowering thought, try this little process.  It will help you squelch self-doubt. 

Anyone who has never…

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
~Albert Einstein 

I didn’t learn this until I was in my thirties.  I didn’t want to look foolish or be wrong.  It was only when I became willing to make a mistake that my life truly expanded.  Happy Wisdom Wednesday!

 

Ten Things on Tuesday

Ten things I am thankful for this Tuesday are:

1.  good physical health

2.  family

3.  friends

4.  an afternoon nap

5.  low humidity

6.  sunshine

7.  hot & sour soup

8.  a comfortable home

9.  a loyal (somewhat “intense”) dog 

10.  a sound mind (some may find this one questionable… ha ha)

What are you thankful for today?